Nick's Story In His Own Words

Many people ask me to tell them my story - where did it all begin and how did I come to build this site.

So, if you're interested, then let me start by introducing myself.

My name is Nick, I’m 36 years old and in June 2000, after 8 years of marriage, I was left crushed as my ex-wife told me that she had been having an affair for the past year. To make matters worse, she was going to leave me to marry this man and take our 6 year old daughter with her.

For my daughter’s sake, I knew I couldn’t just go and beat this guy up. What good would that actually do? I may feel better, but I’d end up being arrested and become the bad guy. My ex would milk it for all it’s worth and her new husband would be the poor victim!

I was filled with so much rage, so much frustration and hate that it was affecting my work, my health and worse of all, my relationship with my daughter.

Emotionally, I was completely drained and in a very, very dark place. I could see no way out. I was trapped.

Friends and family kept saying that “things will get better” and “time is a great healer”. What a load of crap! Don't you just hate it when people say things like that?

I wanted action, I wanted to do something – I wanted revenge!

So, with the help of a bottle of Jack Daniels and a particularly twisted sense of humor, I slowly created a “Revenge Kit” – a series of revenge pranks which delivered the powerful emotional punches I craved.

I couldn’t risk my daughter finding out that it was actually me as this would jeopardize my relationship with her – that’s why I went to exceptionally long lengths to make sure that I remained totally anonymous and untraceable.

My ex knows it’s me, but she can’t prove a damn thing – and believe me, that is satisfaction!

And it gets even better – as an accidental side effect of getting my revenge, I discovered the most powerful revenge tactic of all.

I am still totally amazed that something so simple, something so personally beneficial is still driving my ex crazy with jealousy – even after 6 years!

I now have a fantastic relationship with my daughter, have remarried and am genuinely happier than I have ever been in my life.

What About You?

So much for me though, but what about you?

How do you feel at this moment? Which of the statements below best describe how you are feeling, right now:

• "I hate my ex"
• "I am just so angry and completely filled with rage" 
• "I can't concentrate on anything"
• "I feel physically sick"
• "My life totally sucks right now"
• "There's got to be something I can do to get revenge"
• "I want to hurt them as much as they hurt me"
• "I feel like a complete wreck"
• "There's not enough drink to drown the pain I feel"  
• "Why me?"
• "When did it all go wrong?"

Do any of these sound familiar? Then you are not alone - I felt every single one of these emotions and a whole lot more besides.

Wouldn't it be great though, if instead of feeling like this, you could quite happily tell people that:

•   your ex was so bad in bed, they couldn't find your g-spot with a compass, or


• going out to dinner was like watching a garbage truck being loaded, or
  
  
• that their smile looked like a bulldog chewing a wasp, or
  
  
• they had so much pubic hair that they had to employ a full-time gardener, or
  
  
• laboratory test monkeys wear less make-up than they do

I know how you feel, because I've been there - and so have many others. Ever since I developed my initial revenge tactics, friends, work colleagues, friends-of-friends and some people I've never met before have asked me for ideas on getting revenge on their ex.

"I hate my ex girlfriend" was the first thing I heard when a work colleague popped into my office one day. Jay then proceeded to pour out his feelings to me - how everything had been greate at the beginning, the plans he and his ex girlfriend had made for their future together and even their plans to have children.

But Jay had been sucker-punched. His ex girlfriend had been cheating on him and become pregnant with someone else's child.

He was emotionally destroyed and it was having a massive impact on his work. You see, Jay had been earmarked for an accelerated promotion program that our company operated. He was a rising star and he was in serious danger of ruining his career. He knew the situation he was in, but could see no way out - the corporate world in which he worked showed no mercy and offered no support.

As I listened to Jay pour out his emotions, I was reminded of how I felt when my own life hit rock bottom. I recognized his feelings - I had been there and completely understood where he was coming from.

It was then that I spoke to Jay about the revenge tactics that I'd come up with a couple of years earlier. As I talked him through the process, his focus completely shifted - it was as if a weight had been lifted and he could actually see a way forward. Over the next few weeks, Jay put his own revenge plans into action - and the rest, as they say, is history. Jay now runs his own international business, is having a house built in Dubai and genuinely laughs when he looks back on the revenge he got.

Shortly after I told Jay about my Revenge Kit, one of the team leaders from the office, Claire, said "Do you have any boyfriend revenge ideas?". What was surprising for me was that by talking to Claire in the work environment I had absolutely no idea that anything was wrong.

She clearly kept her work life and home life separate, but as she admitted to me later "It wasn't that easy. As soon as I got into my car to drive home, I'd burst into floods of tears. My ex-boyfriend kept sending me nasty text messages throughout the day and leaving voice mails on my work phone. I'd comfort eat as soon as I got home and drink a bottle of wine just to get to sleep. Work was my only sanity and I was even beginning to lose my grip on that"

Out of everyone I've helped get revenge, Claire probably had the most fun. Her ex boyfriend was very intimidating and an emotional bully - and yet even he has been blown away with the revenge. As Claire moved on her ex boyfriend unsuccessfully tried to weasel his way back in. When I asked Claire to describe my revenge ideas for this website, she said "two words - simple & effective"

From those early days, I have literally helped hundreds, if not thousands, of people to get revenge on their ex.

And now I can help you too.

You don't need to feel hurt and angry, you deserve to feel better, you deserve to move on and you deserve justice for the way you've been let down.

Nick James (March 2006)